May 19, 2021
Now to the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am.
I still remember the first time I heard someone joking about a new “degree program” available at a nearby Christian college. Successful graduates would be awarded an “MRS” degree… for those ladies attending college for the sole purpose of finding a husband. (And let’s not be unfair here – plenty of men are thinking the same thing!)
Even with the recent trends in our culture working to de-emphasize it, marriage remains a highly valued institution, particularly in the church. Over the years I’ve encountered more than my share of older Christians who seem preoccupied with the younger folks “finding God’s perfect match” before too long. And being married, I unfortunately find myself falling into the same kind of thinking, as if marriage is somehow the only “real and natural” next step for a single Christian!
The good news is this: life is not intended to be “on hold” for singles until they get married. That is not even remotely a Biblical concept. Paul clearly states in our text it is “good” for the unmarried and widows to remain single. Even Jesus remained single his entire life. The purpose of our lives is to first be faithful to God’s calling upon us, whatever our status – single, married or widowed. That doesn’t mean marriage is bad, of course – but it does mean God’s will comes first. And sometimes that might mean not getting married right now… or perhaps ever.
If you are currently single, have you brought this topic before your Heavenly Father recently? What is your sense of how God is leading you in this area? And if you are currently married, ask God today to show you how you might support and encourage the singles in your life. Being unmarried in the American church can be a challenging road – how might you be a source of light to those singles around you?